The Story of Marta: “He controlled every step of my way”

At the age of 17, I had a newborn, and soon after that I developed a relationship with a man. Everything happened very quickly, we moved to a small village, rented an apartment with two rooms, everything seemed great. I was also relieved to leave my abusive parents, who had never said one kind word towards me.

One day he came home without the usual uniform on because he had lost his job, at that moment he put me in front of a fact – I will have to sell my body for us to survive. As before, he made money, now it’s my turn.

He created a profile on the intimate service portal. He threatened me the most with the possibility of taking the child away if I disobeyed his plan. He said he would “do his best to take my child away because I can’t take care of them.”

I obeyed his conditions, became his toy doll, fulfilling what he wanted. I sold myself with terrible disgust. Every time he took the money and went to the gaming halls, and all the money he received from strangers for my use, he gambled away.

Several times I wanted to take my child and belongings and walk away. One time he locked me in the apartment and turned off the electricity and left. I was still breastfeeding at the time. He controlled every step of my way, every conversation, I was under constant stress.

There were times when I wanted to jump from the 5th floor to end it all. Maybe the hell I was drawn into, and with me my child, would end. I started to hate myself with each passing moment.

There was a situation when a police representative came to me to make a “check purchase”, and of course I was fined 350 euros, because the law on prostitution was violated as there was a minor child in the apartment. The child was in the apartment because that way he could control me more easily, he knew I would obey his ultimatum because I was afraid for the safety of the children.

Unfortunately, the police could not see that I had been used as a victim of human trafficking.

I believe that there are still a lot of women in Latvia who are sexually exploited by their partners or pimps, and they do what they are told to do because they are afraid of the consequences if they cannot escape.

I was helped by the Orphans’ Court and the social service with the service of the crisis centre, and my children were not taken away, but no one saw that I was a victim of human trafficking, everyone was stereotyped and assumed that this was just a family conflict, domestic violence issue and my own choice to be sexually exploited. But only people who have been exposed to it are able to understand these traumatic experiences and the consequences they have for a person’s future life, both emotionally and physically.

I was very helped by the State-paid social rehabilitation service for victims of human trafficking, which lasts up to 180 days, but even within this set period there is no possibility to fully recover from the traumatic event and start an independent life if you have nothing.

I would like to appeal to anyone who is in a situation like my own, when they have to provide sexual services or other work against their will, so that they find a little strength to seek help.

*The name has been changed due to safety reasons.

The text is written by a Survivor, with the help from Centre MARTA in Latvia.

It’s time to join!

THE PROBLEM
Those who have suffered through human trafficking in childhood should have access to help and support in the emergency immediately after escaping the exploitation. But they also need support when they have healed a bit and identify as survivors.

Short-term help is available more often than long-term support. Once victims get out of an exploitative situation, the help they get depends on where they managed to escape. We see that survivors still face many challenges. The need for long-term help is not as widely recognized as the short-term emergency help.

Legislation, emergency assistance and programmes for survivors should consider the experiences and suggestions from survivors. The support systems should be tailored to the survivors.

How can the voice of survivors be better heard?

WHAT WE ARE DOING ABOUT IT
With ECPAT Norway as lead partner, the If you speak up, I will join! project is run with Centre MARTA (Latvia), the Swedish Platform Civil Society Against Trafficking (Sweden) and the Charity Fund Galaxy (Russia).

In a virtual festival on the 11 th of June 2020 we are gathering survivors and professionals to lift up their voices and to give them the space to express their concerns. The event will present a Survivors’ Manifest that can later be used to advocate for the rights of survivors. By bringing together the voices of a broad network of survivors and partners in the Baltic Sea region, we aim to shape future policy and programmes, so that the support available for and with survivors is strengthened.

The If You Speak Up, I Will Join! project also involves several activities organised by various organisations at a national level to bring survivors together. This has been impacted by COVID-19, but we will share more information about the national projects and how you can get involved in virtual adaptations or once it is safe to meet again in person.

This online platform will remain available also after the festival on the 11 th of June as an online regional forum for survivors and professionals in the Baltic Sea region.

HOW TO JOIN
The virtual festival on the 11th of June will celebrate resilience and empowerment, and we hope the presentations and input can give survivors opportunities and hope for the future. We are reaching out to survivors to promote the right to be heard, because survivors are stronger and louder when they stand together.

The virtual festival of the If You Speak Up, I Will Join! project will involve presentations from survivors and professionals, art, conversations, and shaping of the Survivors’ Manifest. We hope that even though this festival is now a virtual festival, it will be a safe space for survivors to bond.

For safety reasons, participants need to sign up for the event. A link will be available on this page soon.

Questions? Comment below or email us at post@ecpatnorge.no.

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What it means to be a survivor

Survivors of human trafficking with sexual exploitation have so many shadows. I could write a lot about anxiety seizures when the only thing I can think of is fear that pushes on from everywhere and nowhere. But this time there is something else I would like to tell you about.

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There was this boy. He is such a strong soul. Such a fighter. He ran from home when he was nine and he has taken care of himself since. I have heard stories about parties, drinking, drugs, hunger, cold. About betrayal and how he learned that he could trust no-one. About how strong each person has to be to take responsibility for their own choices. We talked a lot about this.

HE IS CONVINCED THAT EVERYTHING IN HIS LIFE IS HIS OWN CHOICE. HIS FREE-WILLED CHOICE.

And maybe it has been exactly this that has helped him through all challenges on his way.

I remember this one sunny day that we spent together many, many years ago. We were miners at this time, and we worked under the control of traffickers. On this specific day we were allowed to go to a shop and by some treats for ourselves. So there we were – two kids walking down the road, with bags full of sweets and eating ice cream. I remember that it was a very sunny and warm day, and we walked for a long time very quietly. Both of us were being buried by our own dark, heavy thoughts. We were so quiet and serious.

UNTIL HE SUDDENLY BROKE OUT IN A LOUD ANGER OUTBREAK!

I just didn’t understand what was happening, I stopped and stared at him like I really didn’t know if I should be afraid of him or what.

“I just don’t understand how they want us to put this fucking condom on with a mouth!” he screamed. He didn’t care if anyone would hear us, or what they would think about us. We were already outsiders, and nothing could make it worse. He was so angry at this moment, like I have never seen him before. He was angry at customers who bought us for one or two rounds, and who demanded some weird stuff. I could understand him so well!

FOR SOME MOMENTS WE LOOKED AT EACH OTHER IN SILENCE, AND THEN WE STARTED TO LAUGH. WE LAUGHED LIKE WE HAD NEVER LAUGHED TOGETHER BEFORE. I REMEMBER THIS LIKE IT WAS YESTERDAY: WE STOOD THERE ON THIS ROAD, WITH ICE-CREAMS IN OUR HANDS, AND WE LAUGHED UNTIL WE CRIED.

I remember this moment because it was the only time we laughed so well in this period of time in our lives. Many years later I found this boy again. Now a man. And he is doing well. We came out of this as winners, we didn’t give up and we never will. And in one conversation he told me:

“Even though things were as bad as they were at this time, Regina, we still found something to laugh about and be happy. And this is what means to be a survivor.”

Written by survivor of human trafficking in childhood,

Regina Lee Jones.

ECPAT

ECPAT is the world’s leading network of organizations working together to eliminate human trafficking and sexual exploitation of children in all its forms. In 2016, ECPAT International organized the first global forum for survivors of childhood human trafficking and sexual exploitation.

Global Survivors Forum, which was led and run by survivors, provided a platform and a stronger voice to survivors from around the world. You can read more about this work
here: http://www.ecpat.org/survivor-voices/

The stories of survivors illustrated how important such initiatives can be for the individual’s rehabilitation and reintegration. If you speak up, I will join! aims to strengthen the voices and support for survivors.

From a survivor

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I was 15 years old when I objected to injustice. In a rebellion, I ran away from home – straight into a ”nest” that human traffickers had prepared for me.

I call it a ”nest” because they had control over my life. They managed to convince me that they cared about me. But the only thing they probably cared about was the profit. They told me that the right thing was wrong and the wrong was right. And with that, they forced me to sell my body. 

I don’t quite know whether the human traffickers, or the customers who buy children and young people are the worst. But you know, like me, how many people that think these things are ok. And how good they are at hiding it. 

That is why I want you, who have also experienced human trafficking as a child or youth, regardless of whether it was for sexual services, forced labor or begging, to contact me. Together we can gather the voices of everyone who has experienced similar and give power to those voices. 

No one else can make as much difference as us survivors who have our own experiences.

Hug from Regina
Coordinator, Invisible Children Forum

Invisible Children Forum

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The Invisible Children Forum and ECPAT Norway promote the voices of survivors. Most survivors of human trafficking never report these crimes. While some want to forget everything, to be able to process it, many feel ashamed, or are afraid of being stigmatized. Others live in constant fear of retaliation from criminal networks, or to be detained or deported. For identified victims, common challenges include lack of inclusion in work life and society at large, depression, loneliness, and the feeling of being powerless.

If you speak up, I will join! is funded by the Council of the Baltic Sea States. The project aims to identify and empower survivors of childhood human trafficking. Through regional cooperation in 11 countries, and local projects in Russia, Latvia, Sweden and Norway, the project will start during the fall 2019 and end with a festival in Oslo in the summer 2020.

Join!
If you want to get together with persons who have been in similar situations you should join the survivors forum. The time has come to be heard.